What Does Polyamory Look Like

What Does Polyamory Look Like

Dr. Fred Hillman, GLBT activist and retired Family Therapist Dont let the size of this little book fool you. What Does Polyamory Look Like? is chock full of information about how to build honest, loving, and lasting relationships.

Author: Mim Chapman PhD

Publisher: iUniverse

ISBN: 9781450220095

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 156

View: 486

Finally, a book that explores what it truly means to be polyamorous by exploring the wonderful variety of poly relationships. Only through understanding polys innate diversity can one grasp what open relationships can off er. Th ank you, Mim, for a book that is relevant and useful, as polyamory moves out of the shadows and into the mainstream of society. It is an important resource for anyone who wishes to understand the growing poly movement as it changes our society and challenges our presumptions about relationships. Bravo! Robyn Trask, Executive Director of Loving More Non-Profit and Magazine What is your relationship dream, and what options are out there to choose from? Were familiar with monogamy, but what additional models of loving and living are offered by polyamory, and what do they look like in action? How is polyamory different from polygamy, swinging, or cheating? What new forms of etiquette are needed in order to nurture polys varied forms of family? Is it really possible to have a relationship in which love does not equal possessiveness? Any relationship, from monogamous marriage to business enterprise to polyamorous family, will benefit from the practical relationship advice found within the covers of this well-written little book. Matthew C. Cox, Life Coach and Author of Living the Southwest Lifestyle Just the right balance between information, candor, and lightheartedness. Dr. Fred Hillman, GLBT activist and retired Family Therapist Dont let the size of this little book fool you. What Does Polyamory Look Like? is chock full of information about how to build honest, loving, and lasting relationships. Therapists and educators, take note! Dr. Chapman dispels the myths of polyamory and teaches us all about how to create and sustain the relationships of which weve dreamed. Sera Miles, Director of New Mexico FetLifers
Categories: Family & Relationships

Polyamory

Polyamory

What does polyamory look like? Polydiverse patterns of loving and living in modern polyamorous relationships. Santa Fe, NM: iUniverse. Cohen, M. T. (2016). The perceived satisfaction derived from various relationship configurations.

Author: Martha Kauppi

Publisher: Rowman & Littlefield

ISBN: 9781538129906

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 432

View: 335

This is the first practical, how-to guide to non-monogamy for therapists. It contains everything a therapist needs to know to start working confidently and competently with polyamorous clients. It covers both the most common challenges and the most complex and difficult situations likely to present in the therapy room.
Categories: Family & Relationships

It s Called Polyamory

It s Called  Polyamory

Your partner may have many questions regarding what exactly you mean and what a polyamorous relationship might look like. If you know that your partner is an analytical type, be prepared to answer some pointed questions about ...

Author: Tamara Pincus

Publisher: Thorntree Press LLC

ISBN: 9781944934439

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 208

View: 598

Even in progressive families and communities, people who practice nonmonogamy are susceptible to misinformation and accusations of moral and emotional failings. Facing this requires its own coming out and education process. In this guide, Tamara Pincus and Rebecca Hiles provide a roadmap for explaining the expansive intricacies of the consensual nonmonogamy spectrum. By fusing personal experience and community research, they break down the various incarnations of polyamorous relationship structures, polyamory's intersections with race and gender, and the seemingly esoteric jargon of the lifestyle.Topics include everything from how to explain what a "unicorn hunter" is to answering questions like, "Can poly people raise children?" and "Can they live normal, healthy lives?" Such conversations are eloquently explained and the real dangers of being out as poly in a monogamy-centered society are laid bare.
Categories: Family & Relationships

The Polygamy Question

The Polygamy Question

A careful analysis of what recognition of polygamy might look like demonstrates how difficult it would be to transform the work currently done by marriage law to a polygamous context. In contrast, the work that family law beyond ...

Author: Janet Bennion

Publisher: University Press of Colorado

ISBN: 9780874219975

Category: History

Page: 288

View: 876

The practice of polygamy occupies a unique place in North American history and has had a profound effect on its legal and social development. The Polygamy Question explores the ways in which indigenous and immigrant polygamy have shaped the lives of individuals, communities, and the broader societies that have engaged with it. The book also considers how polygamy challenges our traditional notions of gender and marriage and how it might be effectively regulated to comport with contemporary notions of justice. The contributors to this volume—scholars of law, anthropology, sociology, political science, economics, and religious studies—disentangle diverse forms of polygamy and polyamory practiced among a range of religious and national backgrounds including Mormon and Muslim. They chart the harms and benefits these models have on practicing women, children, and men, whether they are independent families or members of coherent religious groups. Contributors also address the complexities of evaluating this form of marriage and the ethical and legal issues surrounding regulation of the practice, including the pros and cons of legalization. Plural marriage is the next frontier of North American marriage law and possibly the next civil rights battlefield. Students and scholars interested in polygamy, marriage, and family will find much of interest in The Polygamy Question. Contributors include Kerry Abrams, Martha Bailey, Lori Beaman, Janet Bennion, Jonathan Cowden, Shoshana Grossbard, Melanie Heath, Debra Majeed, Rose McDermott, Sarah Song, and Maura Irene Strassberg.
Categories: History

Polyamory in the 21st Century

Polyamory in the 21st Century

Superficially, they look like the perfect couple, but Sheila would leave in a heartbeat if it weren't for their two sons. Gina and Eric met while working for the same company. They were attracted to each other but hesitant to get ...

Author: Deborah Anapol

Publisher: Rowman & Littlefield Publishers

ISBN: 1442200235

Category: Health & Fitness

Page: 260

View: 798

Unlike other books on this topic, Polyamory in the 21st Century weaves together research and facts to provide an informed and impartial analysis of polyamory as a lifestyle and as a movement, and to place it in a psychosocial as well as an historical context. Anecdotes and personal experiences allow the reader to develop a better understanding of polyamory and the people who practice and enjoy it. Anapol addresses the practical, the utopian, and the shadow sides of this intriguing, mysterious, yet often threatening lifestyle. It honestly addresses difficult issues such as the nature of commitment without exclusivity, balancing personal needs with loyalty to a partner, evaluating beliefs about love and relationship, the impact of polyamory on children, and the challenges that arise when one partner wants monogamy and another prefers polyamory. Without judgement, she explores this increasingly common practice, and reveals the true nature of a lifestyle that many do not understand.
Categories: Health & Fitness

The Many Faces of Polyamory

The Many Faces of Polyamory

One of the confusing aspects of polyamory is that it simultaneously represents a privileged and oppressed position. ... Nobody knows what the future of human relationships will look like, but, at present, polyamory evokes more feelings ...

Author: Magdalena J. Fosse

Publisher: Routledge

ISBN: 9781351381130

Category: Psychology

Page: 220

View: 808

The Many Faces of Polyamory: Longing and Belonging in Concurrent Relationships provides new perspectives on polyamory and the longing to belong in the relatively uncharted territory of nonnormative relationships. This volume offers a valuable and compelling account on how to approach polyamorous relationships from the clinical perspective. While there is no uniform answer, Dr. Fosse’s compassionate and discerning approach that combines relative neutrality, an open-minded embrace of nontraditional lifestyle choices, and skilful attention to countertransference dynamics is likely to be inspiring. Dr. Fosse exposes the dynamics of love, sex, jealousy, and compersion as they play out in lives of those interested in polyamory, and more broadly, consensual nonmonogamy. Her focus is on relationships worth having. With its nuanced clinical focus, The Many Faces of Polyamory will be an essential resource for psychotherapists, educators, students, and anyone inside and outside of the mental health field drawn to the intricacies of sexuality, intimacy, and how they are intertwined with relational satisfaction
Categories: Psychology

Understanding Non Monogamies

Understanding Non Monogamies

Does. Asexuality. Have. to. Do. with. Polyamory? Kristin. S. Scherrer. Popular understandings about polyamories and non-monogamies largely focus on ... What might a discussion of polyamory look like without a focus on sexual behaviors?

Author: Meg Barker

Publisher: Routledge

ISBN: 9781135196301

Category: Psychology

Page: 324

View: 401

Most social scientific work on intimate relationships has assumed a monogamous structure, or has considered anything other than monogamy only in the context of 'infidelity'. Yet, in recent years there has been a growing interest among researchers and the public in exploring various patterns of intimacy that involve open non-monogamy. This volume gathers contributions from academics, activists, and practitioners throughout the world to explore non-monogamous relationships. Featuring both empirical and theoretical pieces, contributors examine the history and cultural basis of various forms of non-monogamy, experiences of non-monogamous living, psychological understandings of relationship patterns, language and emotion, the discursive construction of mono-normativity as well as issues of race, class, disability, sexuality and gender. This volume will be of interest to academics and practitioners working in the social sciences and anyone who is seeking greater insight into the intricacies of non-monogamous relationships.
Categories: Psychology

Expanding the Rainbow

Expanding the Rainbow

REDEFINING RELATIONSHIP: WHAT ELSE DOES POLYAMORY OFFER ASEXUALS? Asexuals may be more likely to consider polyamory as a viable relationship option because of the way both identities challenge common assumptions about romantic or ...

Author: Brandy L. Simula

Publisher: BRILL

ISBN: 9789004414105

Category: Social Science

Page: 378

View: 937

Expanding the Rainbow brings together cutting-edge empirical research with compelling personal narratives about the experiences and relationships of individuals of diverse gender and sexual identities, focusing on the experiences of bi+, poly, kinky, ace, intersex, and trans people.
Categories: Social Science

Philosophy of Love Sex and Marriage

Philosophy of Love  Sex  and Marriage

Polygamy and Polyamory In assessing the goodness and badness of non-monogamous marriages – of polygamy and polyamory – we need ... Although this sounds plausible, imagining what such marriages wouldlooklike is extremely difficult, ...

Author: Raja Halwani

Publisher: Routledge

ISBN: 9781135149642

Category: Philosophy

Page: 344

View: 253

How is love different from lust or infatuation? Do love and marriage really go together “like a horse and carriage”? Does sex have any necessary connection to either? And how important are love, sex, and marriage to a well-lived life? In this lively, lucid, and comprehensive textbook, Raja Halwani pursues the philosophical questions inherent in these three important aspects of human relationships, exploring the nature, uses, and ethics of romantic love, sexuality, and marriage.
Categories: Philosophy

Polyamorous

Polyamorous

“Couples make rules about what their other relationships are going to look like. Some of that stuff really started to feel icky. Like, these are real people and I don't want to be putting these kinds of restrictions on them,” she said.

Author: Jenny Yuen

Publisher: Dundurn

ISBN: 9781459740426

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 200

View: 619

A look at how people are giving themselves a choice to love another way. More people than ever are exploring the possibility of opening up their relationships — and not only that, they are fighting for their legal rights to love however and whomever they choose. In Polyamorous, reporter Jenny Yuen digs into how polyamory affects underrepresented communities, why these unions are becoming more normalized, and how relationships with multiple partners can be a practical alternative to monogamy and an intriguing expedition through uncharted emotional territory. Pairing off is no longer the default option for many. For some, polyamory is just a part of who they are.
Categories: Family & Relationships

Polyamory and Jealousy

Polyamory and Jealousy

He reassured her over and over that it was okay to feel what she felt, and he did not try to fix her feelings for her ... When we're sad, we can be hard put to remember what it's like to be happy, and when we're jealous, we can find it ...

Author: Eve Rickert

Publisher: Thorntree Press LLC

ISBN: 9781944934002

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 200

View: 446

"How do you deal with jealousy?" It's the first question many people ask when they hear about polyamory. Tools for dealing with jealous feelings are among the most basic resources in a well-equipped polyamory toolkit. Eve Rickert and Franklin Veaux, authors of the popular polyamory book More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory, present Polyamory and Jealousy, part of the More Than Two Essentials series. The essentials take sections from More Than Two, expand on them, and present them in a practical, easy-to-use format that can be read in a single sitting. In this booklet, you will find pragmatic ways to handle feelings of jealousy when they arise. You'll learn tools for identifying jealousy, strategies for decoding what it means, and hands-on advice for dealing with it before it undermines your relationship. If jealousy is a problem for you or someone you love, this companion to More Than Two offers a path through the wilderness.
Categories: Family & Relationships

New Religions and the Mediation of Non Monogamy

New Religions and the Mediation of Non Monogamy

Polyamory, Polygamy, and Reality Television Michelle Mueller ... September 2013. www.facebook.com/groups/Blackpolyamory. Bloom, Harold. 1992. The American Religion. New York: Simon & Schuster. ... What Does Polyamory Look Like?:

Author: Michelle Mueller

Publisher: Routledge

ISBN: 9780429588730

Category: Religion

Page: 248

View: 510

New Religions and the Mediation of Non-Monogamy examines the relationship between alternative American religions and the media representation of non-monogamies on reality-TV shows like Sister Wives, Seeking Sister Wife, and Polyamory: Married & Dating. The book is the first full-length study informed by fieldwork with Mormon polygamists and fieldwork with LGBTQ Neo-Pagan/Neo-Tantric polyamorists. The book tracks community members’ responses to the new media about them, their engagement with television and other media, and the likeness of representations to actual populations through fieldwork and interviews. The book highlights differences in socioeconomic privileges that shape Mormon polygamists’ lives and LGBTQ polyamorists’ lives, respectively. The polyamory movement receives support from liberal media. As reality TV has shifted the image of Mormon polygamy to one of liberal American middle-class culture, Mormon polygamists have gained in public favor. The media landscape of non-monogamy is mediated by, in addition to these alternative religious populations, the norms and practices of the reality-TV industry and by sociocultural and economic realities, including race and class. This book adds to the fields of media studies, critical race and gender studies, new religious movements, and queer studies.
Categories: Religion

The Myth of Sex Addiction

The Myth of Sex Addiction

Chapman, M. What Does Polyamory Look Like? New York: iUniverse, 2010. Clarke, V. “Forget Equations, Einstein's Genius Was to Disprove Monogamy Theory.” Independent, 2006. http://www.independent.ie/opinion/analysis/forget ...

Author: David J. Ley

Publisher: Rowman & Littlefield

ISBN: 9781442213050

Category: Psychology

Page: 259

View: 189

Presents the history and questionable science underlying sexual addiction, suggesting that men take responsibility for sexual choices rather than labeling sexual desire as a force that must be resisted, feared, and treated.
Categories: Psychology

Love Unfolded

Love Unfolded

Polyamory does not recommend a taste for kinky or wild sex. Polyamory as such attracts a much ... A relationship can be built in many ways. ... Our society and culture give us a blueprint for what our relationships should look like.

Author: Abdur Rahim

Publisher: FriesenPress

ISBN: 9781525550881

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 216

View: 173

Where there is love there is life. But what love is? To understand love at the deepest level, we need to know what love is and how it is explained? This book attempts to share inspiring insights, anecdotal experiences and perhaps incomplete yet valuable materials and viewpoints of general and notable people across the global cultures over time, which is presented precisely, easy to read, and understand to the readers on the matter of love, marriage and sexual behavior towards fulfilling the life's most intrinsic desire and happiness. The book is for the general public of all sections of global society and culture. The three key messages readers shall take away from this book. They are: a) love is the essence, b) marriage is a bond, and c) sex is the ultimate supreme pleasure of life. Explaining these themes, attempts have been made to broadly discuss about the topics, bringing together various ideas from diverse sources, historical periods, cultures, and philosophical perspectives, along with contemporary empirical work from psychology, sociology, anthropology, and neuroscience. The readers not only will enjoy the many flavors of the substance of the book but also get the facts and analysis of why we approach love, marriage, relationships, and observed or unobserved differences between men and women, and what social, historical, cultural, political, evolutionary, or biological factors might influence them. Nonetheless, the substance of the book tells the inner most words of every men and women that are being preserved since their young age. Finally, the book will be of good values and understanding with readers' own journey of love, marriage, and relationship. These are the reasons why the readers will buy the book. The main objective of the book is to let the readers rethink about the changing pattern of love and relationships over time.
Categories: Family & Relationships

Casebook for Counseling

Casebook for Counseling

would be living with Ann and Tomas in a committed relationship. Tomas and Ann would get along well. ... Surprisingly, after I defined what a polyamorous relationship might look like, Connie did not immediately reject this idea.

Author: Sari H. Dworkin

Publisher: John Wiley & Sons

ISBN: 9781119026563

Category: Psychology

Page: 370

View: 621

This captivating book contains 31 case studies that focus on what is said and done in actual counseling sessions with LGBTQQI clients, including diagnosis; interventions, treatment goals, and outcomes; transference and countertransference issues; other multicultural considerations; and recommendations for further counseling or training. Experts in the field address topics across the areas of individual development, relationship concerns, contextual matters, and wellness. The cases presented include coming out; counseling intersex, bisexual, and transsexual clients; couples, marriage, and family counseling; parenting issues; aging; working with rural clients and African American, Native American, Latino/a, Asian, and multiracial individuals; sexual minority youth; HIV; sexual and drug addictions; binational couples; work and career; domestic violence; spirituality and religion; sexual issues; and women’s health *Requests for digital versions from ACA can be found on www.wiley.com. *To purchase print copies, please visit the ACA website *Reproduction requests for material from books published by ACA should be directed to [email protected]
Categories: Psychology

Beyond Monogamy

Beyond Monogamy

... racial inequality.8 More important, there is little in the way of articulating what a queer polyamory would look like. To summarize then, research on polyamory provides empirical insight into some of the workings of gender, race, ...

Author: Mimi Schippers

Publisher: NYU Press

ISBN: 9781479886227

Category: Social Science

Page: 208

View: 651

A man and woman are in an open relationship. They have agreed that having sexual partners outside of their relationship is permissible. One night, when her partner is in another city, the woman has sex with the man’s best friend. What does this mean for their relationship? More importantly, why is there such a strong cultural taboo against this kind of triangulation and what does it reveal about the social organization of gender and sexuality? In Beyond Monogamy, Mimi Schippers asks these and other questions to explore compulsory monogamy as a central feature of sexual normalcy. Schippers argues that compulsory monogamy promotes the monogamous couple as the only legitimate, natural, or desirable relationship form in ways that support and legitimize gender, race, and sexual inequalities. Through an investigation of sexual interactions and relationship forms that include more than two people, from polyamory, to threesomes, to the complexity of the ‘down-low,’ Schippers explores the queer, feminist, and anti-racist potential of non-dyadic sex and relationships. A serious look at the intersections of society and sexuality, Beyond Monogamy takes the reader on a compelling and accessible journey through compulsory monogamy, polyamory, and polyqueer sex and relationships.
Categories: Social Science

Stories From the Polycule

Stories From the Polycule

Welcome to the polycule: the network created by the interconnections of polyamorous relationships.

Author: Elisabeth Sheff

Publisher: Thorntree Press LLC

ISBN: 9780991399789

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 288

View: 999

Welcome to the polycule: the network created by the interconnections of polyamorous relationships. Just like the molecules that make up all living things, polycules come in diverse forms: large, small, tightly bound, loosely connected, static, ever-changing. How do polycules form, what do they look like, how do they transform through time, and how do they, sometimes, end?The first of its kind, this anthology brings together stories, poems, drawings and essays created by real people living in polycules. Children describe life with more than two parents; adults share what it's like to parent with more than one partner. We hear from triads, solos, people who have felt polyamorous their entire lives, and people exploring poly for the first time. Some whimsical, some hilarious, some heartbreaking, some mundane, some life-changing—all pieces reflect the diverse reality of polyamorous families.
Categories: Family & Relationships

Polygamy s Rights and Wrongs

Polygamy s Rights and Wrongs

In terms of the Charter, once polygamy is labelled as inherently harmful, little of substance is left to determine. ... What would Canada look like if laws around the family focused more on caregiving in its diverse forms than on the ...

Author: Gillian Calder

Publisher: UBC Press

ISBN: 9780774826181

Category: Social Science

Page: 276

View: 720

Assumptions about the harmful nature of polygamy have left little room for debate, with monogamy coming to represent a hallmark of advanced societies, and polygamy the immoral alternative. Yet in this volume, eleven scholars ask whether this condemnation is justified by examining, among other perspectives, the lived experiences of polygamous families. In essays that fearlessly face difficult questions of choice, dignity, and love, the authors seek to complicate a conversation that is more often simplified. Thoughtful and persuasive, Polygamy's Rights and Wrongs is both a close consideration of polygamy and a challenging reflection on the ways in which we value family and intimacy.
Categories: Social Science

Polyamory Dating Guide

Polyamory Dating Guide

This book is about finding other people who share your view of polyamory is and want to share it with you.After all, just because you identify as polyamorous doesn't mean the poly world suddenly opens up and people are climbing over ...

Author: Dawn Williams

Publisher:

ISBN: 9798576595709

Category:

Page: 150

View: 528

Realizing that you are polyamorous can be a wonderful insight. It may feel like a solution to a long term feeling that you never fit in with monogamous models. Or it could have been a 'team decision' that you have more than enough love to include others. Or perhaps it is something you've known from the moment you started to be interested in romance. This book is about finding other people who share your view of polyamory is and want to share it with you.After all, just because you identify as polyamorous doesn't mean the poly world suddenly opens up and people are climbing over themselves saying "Me too, let's be some combination of multiple loving humans together!". Instead, the challenge of finding like minded people, connecting with people, communicating your interest and desires, and simply beginning dating are not only still present for polyamorous people, but for some of us, even more challenging than a monogamous path.
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Open

Open

Divorce rates continue to be high, and infidelity becomes a more prevalent issue by the day. If you think that no one you know is ... What would your sexuality look like if no one had prescribed it for you from the moment you were born?

Author: Jenny Block

Publisher: Hachette UK

ISBN: 9780786744343

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 288

View: 770

Finally, a book about open marriage that grapples with the problems surrounding monogamy and fidelity in an honest, heartfelt, and non-fringe manner. Jenny Block is your average girl next door, a suburban wife and mother for whom married life never felt quite right. While many books on this topic presuppose that the reader is ready to embrace an “alternative lifestyle,” Block operates from the assumption that most couples who are curious about or engaged in open marriages are in fact more like her — normal people who question whether monogamy is right for them; good people who love their spouses but want variation; capable parents who are not deviant just because they choose to be honest about their desires. Open challenges our notions of what traditional marriage looks like, and presents one woman's journey down an uncertain path that ultimately proves open marriage is a viable option for her and others.
Categories: Family & Relationships